Self-care is crucial in our relationships

Published 11:25 pm Tuesday, January 14, 2020

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As I grow into a young adult, I am not only maturing, but gaining a strong sense of self-worth and morality. Even at a young age, I understand the importance of love. It’s important to spread warmth and positivity to all those around you: your friends, family and yourself. However, we often forget to give ourselves the love that we give others. I am writing this article, not as something informational, but as message to everyone regarding the importance of self-care. Here are some of my tips I’ve gained through the years.

Tip one: remember that your mind and body are yours. As people, we often let others influence our decisions. It is good to remember sometimes that pleasing others shouldn’t be a priority; pleasing yourself should. It is OK to do things for yourself and yourself solely. If toxic people stand as obstacles in your life, cut them off. Do what you love, strive towards your aspirations and don’t let anyone stop you.

Tip two: remember that it’s all right to take a break. Life can become boring and routine when you’re busy with work, school, sports, or any other responsibilities. It is easy to succumb to stress and anxiety when you’re overworking yourself. A common negative thought that people have is “If I’m not working or creating something, then I’m not doing anything at all.” However, it is extremely important to take time for yourself. If you don’t, then you’ll likely become so stressed and overworked that you’ll have a mental breakdown. Go for a walk, sleep in, watch some movies, read a book, play video games, plant flowers, go hiking. Do anything that is calming and enjoyable for you. After all, you deserve and need it.

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Tip three: forgive those who’ve hurt you and move on. This tip is easier said than done. It is difficult to forgive those who’ve hurt us; and sometimes it’s impossible. In some cases, it is even difficult for us to forgive ourselves. We must understand that we’re human. Humans make mistakes. Holding on to the past is often easier than letting go. However, if you hold on to the past forever then you’ll never truly grow. We need to let go of negativity to improve our lives and move on to better things. Let go of baggage and insecurities. If you’re struggling, find someone or something that can help you heal. Healing is recovery, and recovery is self-care.

Life can often be overbearing. The weight and miserableness of the world can blind us from a brighter future. It is vital that we remember to love and care for ourselves amid the chaos. Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated. If doing a facemask or eating a slice of cake calms you then, by all means do it. All that truly matters is that we give ourselves enough love to spread some of that love to others in need. We all have the glorious capability to grow, heal and achieve our dreams.


(Emily Day is a junior at Harlan County High School and is a member of the Bear Tracks newspaper staff and a student in Tami Brock’s dual credit English class. This is a continuing series of columns produced by student writers and edited by Harlan County Schools Gear Up specialist John Henson)